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How are we shaped

Now that I think about it, since my childhood, I could not be categorised in a standard way. In fact,  I had this inkling all these years but only a few days back, the whole underlying principle sort of revealed itself. 

The process of growing and the environment one is operating into does shape one. This we all have heard, but in what way it precisely impacts and what will be the outcome or possibility, I did not know in an obvious way. 

Many years ago when I had started on my work life, a colleague in my office did not know that stamps of particular value needed to put on to an envelope for it to be delivered by Indian postal system. I was surprised as this was as common knowledge to me as it was about wearing a shirt. This did give me an insight that the process of growing had endowed me with certain information, knowledge or skill which many would have had no way to acquire. And this placed me at an advantageous level in many situations which work or life will throw. In all my job interviews I did try to share this insight with my recruiter that with me many intangibles come as well which you can not otherwise price nor put in your skill/ability requirements in the job description. Now that I am out of the job market, this insight in the more explicit way has revealed. 

The whole list of influencers of life at all stages can be broadly categorised into two - ordinary (majority go through) or unique (smaller percentage of the population experience this). For example, family- the type of parents, their background, your own brothers and sisters, the role of freedom; schooling- boarding, day boarding, medium, mainstream or alternate curriculum, college, higher study; work- industry, niche or mainstream, relationship with colleagues, etc.  Basically, one has to look at one's life and identify the events and circumstances and see them in light of what other people around have experienced. After that, make the assessment accordingly as per the table to the left. The table is just to help focus the items, and it is not conclusive and exhaustive by any means. However, this will surely give one an idea of how one has been impacted environmentally until then. 

It is essential to know what others' experience of life has been in that category of experience to get a real perspective. Just to share why this is so important. My initial and primary years were in an organisation where all of us did the work in a certain way. Since all of us did that way, and we had no information about how others outside that organisation operated, we did not know that we were working in a niche segment. Only when I joined some big organisation, I realised that what is considered unique here was the norm in my previous company without any one of us realising it. 



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